When addressing people do you make distinctions? Do you see each one as special? Are you condescending with some? Do you pay attention to how people look and speak? Do you have some of these concerns? We should however look beyond appearances. People ought to be treated with the utmost respect. This is what we have to put into practice when we are with others. Do you dazzle the world with your talent? Robert Browning (1812–1889) did this with poems, plays, and pamphlets. His wife Elizabeth Barrett Browning (1806–1861) was more successful with her works than him. In Sonnet 43, she expressed a limitless love:
With my lost saints – I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! - and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.
There was sincerity in this special love she shared. This was supreme and knew no boundaries, or distinctions. She loved the saints.
Our Loving Ways
Why try to control people? The best results come when we cooperate in the workplace, at play, and in sports. A farm worker and civil rights activist Cesar Chavez (1927–1993) said, “From the depth of need and despair, people can work together, can organize themselves to solve their own problems and fill their own needs with dignity and strength.” By not differentiating between management and workers officials bring dignity to a working environment.
A Brazilian novelist and lyricist Paulo Coelho (b. 1947) wrote, “I can control my destiny, but not fate. Destiny means there are opportunities to turn right or left, but fate is a one way street. I believe we all have the choice as to whether we fulfill our destiny, but our fate is sealed.” For better or worse Coelho cited the choices we make. He stressed their importance in our selections for determining the nature of relationships. Aim not to make distinctions between the works of a janitor and that of his boss. Every worker should be viewed as contributing their best efforts for the common good.
Wings on Ideas
It takes love to put wings on our ideas. The way people view the world is important. It won’t be in our best interest like novelist and poet Thomas Hardy (1840–1928), who saw the world governed by sheer chance and natural laws. Life isn’t a series of coincidences. That’s why in loving Christ we become complete. We discover that divine realities govern situations. These are the wings of love when dealing with others. People regardless of their class, distinction, and creed ought to be cared for, and cherished.
People are to love one another. Carp diem is a Latin aphorism which means “living to the fullest right now and having the opportunity to seize the moment.” Our success isn’t merely, “Let us eat and drink, for tomorrow we die,” wrote Roman poet Horace (65 B.C.– 8 B.C.). It’s more than that – it’s being able to capture the essence of life. It’s imperative that we become caring members of society. In life’s journey we ought to love one another and resist putting people in boxes. Jesus Christ urged us to love our neighbors as ourselves. Let your love be like that of poet Christopher Marlowe (1564–1593), in “The Passionate Shepherd to His Love:”
Come live with me, and be my love,
And we will all the pleasures prove
That valleys, groves, hills and fields,
Woods, or steepy mountain yields.
Or, like that of the poet and explorer Sir Walter Raleigh (1552?–1618) in “The Nymph's Reply to the Shepherd” - “To live with thee and be thy love.”
Marlowe and Raleigh’s love is engrossing. They would do anything for love because it was authentic. Jesus Christ’s example of this love was amazing because he died for us on the Cross at Calvary. His was more than between couples or friends. It was a superior, ultra-special, boundless, and distinctive in its saving grace.